big zorb wrote:that's pretty cool, bs! daps to you man.
as for aa, i think it's a number of things. every meeting is different for sure but, in des moines at least, even the "hip meetings" are definitely christian. i don't particularly care when i go--that's not why i'm there so no skin off my back--but i guess if you have negative associations that could be part of it.
a second thing i think is that sometimes people are not ready to quit yet, and aa is very, very good at a) knowing from experience what will work and b) very eager to tell you that. for some people, the advice to completely change your life or w/e--what pop trunk outlined above--is pretty daunting when they might want to get sober but not yet be ready for it. i get that. it is pretty shocking when you completely upend your life, even if obviously good things come of it.
the third thing...there is a certainty to aa's conclusions that i sometimes am not particularly interested in. if your goal is to not drink, you should go to aa meetings, because they are extremely, incredibly good at helping you not drink. and i think that is a deeply powerful tool. but sometimes i need to figure out some aspect of why i drank, the root problem, what was happening in my life then, and i tend to find the answers aa wants to give you for those reasons pretty unsatisfying and, frankly, pretty bad at parsing nuance in a way that i need for resolution or closure. that's not really even a knock on aa; the goal of aa is to not drink.
i personally only go to meetings when i feel like i could slip up that day, because i know that if i go to a meeting i won't. and that is an unreal tool to have in your toolbox. but i think there are some reasons why someone might not fit with aa. my mom is a really black and white alcoholic (and emotionally black and white person in general) and she has no interest, really, in investigating why she felt so drawn to try and obliterate her mind with the substance. she just wanted not to do it anymore. she's like the ideal aa member (and is killing it with sobriety). but as someone whose brain isn't wired that way, when i'm looking for a bit of contemplation, aa is not the place for me.
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